Let Go of Mistakes with Gratitude

Just because it was expensive, does not mean that it spark joys.

Sometimes we keep items just because we remember how much we spent on them. They don't fit with our life or our style anymore so we put them back in the closet, drawer, or the basement. Think about something in your home that you are keeping just because it was expensive. Take some time to sit with that feeling. Stop!… Pause… Feel…   

Yes, it's icky. Now forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. That is how we learn. 

Spend a little bit more time thinking about how that expensive item became yours. Perhaps you were online shopping because you couldn’t sleep. Perhaps you were looking for a mood boost and you went shopping instead of going to yoga. Perhaps …..

What can you change so you don’t make another expensive and non-joy sparking purchase? Take a moment and promise yourself that you are going to make this change.

Ahhh, you’re another step closer to a tidy mindset!

The next step is to start your KonMari journey. Thank each item that is no longer bringing you joy. Then let it go.

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KonMari & Minimalism

Both the KonMari™ method and Minimalism provide an opportunity to step back and think about how you want to live your life. They are an invitation to pause and consider your home and life. Personally, Marie’s method of choosing joy spoke to me. I was so inspired by reading her book that I changed my life. The KonMari™ method reminded me of Joseph Campbell’s phrase, “follow your bliss”. It gave me the experience of a lifetime. It encouraged me to live a life that sparks joy and to intentionally choose items and experiences that speak to my heart..

I find minimalism to be an overall source of inspiration, but it didn’t click for me in the same way. There is value in both methods and practices. I appreciate practices which encourage reflection and an opportunity to check in with current values. There are so many ways to live an intentional life. I’ve found mind through KonMari™ and yoga.

Intentional living is a choice. I encourage you to find your path! I’ll keep sharing mine.

Clearing A Space This Summer

Have you heard of My Gut Instinct? I’m excited to have an article in their July 2019 newsletter and on their blog. The article is copied below and you can read on The My Gut Instinct blog.

Summer is a time to lighten. It’s the ideal season to spend more time int he sun, eat lighter foods, and make our homes lighter. As a professional organizer certified in the KonMari™ method, I guide my clients through a process which helps them to focus on what they want to keep in their lives. Once a decision is made about what to keep and treasure, it’s easier to make our homes lighter and let go.

This process is different from simply storing winter sweaters. It’s about asking ourselves if we want to wear that sweater or use that item next fall. When we decide to keep something, we make a choice. We fold it and create a place for it so we can find it easily. Perhaps we might even go a step further and take a moment to thank it – to recognize that this item has brought something to our life, that it has helped in some way, and that we are looking forward to using it again.

Information from studies, books on decluttering, and documentaries can be motivating. However, sitting down to work through a pile of papers or a mound of T-shirts feels stressful. We don’t realize how emotionally attached we have become to the items in our home. These items are everywhere, from the magnets on the refrigerator to the bottles of hair products we intended to try. We realize that we aren’t just decluttering; we are confronting aspects of ourselves.

There are a variety of helpful decluttering concepts. However, it is most important to create an intentional and thoughtful process that will provide motivation and establish a purpose when we feel the weight of the items we are about to sort through.

Choosing what to keep is an important part of the KonMari™ method. Recognize that while many things are nice, there are certain things that really speak to us or to who we want to become. These items are the ones that spark joy. When our decluttering journey is focused on keeping and enjoying the items that spark joy, it’s easier to let go of both the objects and the feelings in our lives that just don’t fit.

Just as we recognize that clutter is stressful, it’s important to recognize that we need to practice good self-care when clearing some space. When tidying or decluttering, create a plan, which includes breaks, and set start and end times. Certified KonMari™ consultants are trained professionals and guides. As I guide my clients through this process, I encourage them to take a break after working through something difficult. I also help my clients to tune into their responses to certain items. This practice helps my clients to recognize how much these items influence their lives. 


Mindful Decluttering Guide from KMI

Marie Kondo has posted a guide to find places to send your items after you’ve thanked them. I’m consistently impressed with the intentionality and the mindfulness of this method. As a certified consultant, I discuss with my clients the best place for them to send the items that are no longer bringing them joy.

Like many of my clients, I worry about how I’m contributing to the over-consumption problem when I decide to let things go. However, now that I’ve adopted a tidy mindset I’m so much more intentional when I shop. I’m making cleaner and greener choices. The process of letting go has helped me to be so much more careful about what comes in and has empowered me to reduce my spending and consumption.

You can view Marie’s decluttering guide at https://tinyurl.com/Joy-SpaceMindful 


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Certified Silver KonMari™ Consultant!

I was so excited when I learned that Marie Kondo would be offering a consultant training in the US. I signed up for the first consultant seminar in NYC. There was a process to become certified and I wanted to work through the process as quickly as possible. I also decided to become a yoga teacher around the same time. (Marie’s first book is called “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up…” for a reason.) It took me some time but I’m excited to share that I’m now certified as a silver level consultant! I’m so grateful for the clients who have shared their homes and their tidying journey with me. Tidying is truly a life changing process. You shift your thinking and your mindset. It’s a joy to share this process with others.

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Mother's Day Sale!

I’m having a Mother’s Day Sale! Give her a gift certificate for a 4-hour tidying lesson and save $25.

This is the perfect gift for women in your life who have everything.

This decluttering experience will reduce stress and spark joy!

Fill out the form below or send an email to Yuriko@joyandspace.com between April 23rd and May 10th.

Presents

We are approaching the time of year when we give and receive gifts. For my most recent birthday, I was fortunate to have friends and family remember me and send me a little something special. Each gift is truly meaningful because it represents the thought, love, and caring energy from cherished individuals in my life. Even though I value these gifts, I don’t always end up keeping them. The KonMari™ process of expressing gratitude for each item that comes into my life, also allows me to let go. I recognize that I’m attached to the person who thought of me and cared enough to send me something. As I approach the holiday season, I reminded to place more emphasis on the person and the love behind the gifts I give and receive. As I shop for gifts, I’ve noticed that I prefer to give the gift of experiences rather than things. I love to give gifts that encourage my loved ones to take care of themselves and enjoy experiences that spark joy.

To that end, I’ve had a small number of gift certificates created for Joy & Space. If you are looking for a gift for someone who has everything, consider the gift of decluttering. You can purchase a $60 gift certificate by emailing me at yuriko@joyandspace.com.

Two Space Clearing Questions

I was reading an article by Joshua Becker entitled, To Declutter Any Room, Ask These Two Questions.

He suggests that we need to declutter first:

“…when we take the step of fully removing from our possession the items we do not need, we find permanent, longer-lasting benefits.” 

I absolutely agree with him. However, the questions he posed didn’t resonate with me. I’m not a minimalist. What I love about KonMari™ is the respect for the items in our home. It’s reflexive of respecting and taking care of ourselves and our loved ones.

As a KonMari™ Consultant, I’d focus on these two questions:

1. Do I want to take care of this? 

Do you want to fold it and put it away?

Do you want to find a place for it in your drawers?

Do you want to thank it on a daily basis ?

2. What does this bring to my life?

Each item in your home is there for a reason. You or someone you love brought the item in. If the item is still bringing something positive into your life, then it should remain. However, some items aren’t bringing you joy. If you feel a rush of unpleasant sensations when you hold the item, take a moment to sit with those feelings. Notice and acknowledge the feeling. What can you learn from it?  After this pause, thank the item and let it go.

Please note that I ask “what” rather than “why” above. I think it’s important to steer clear of “why” questions. They lead us in a different direction and can stop us from progressing forward.

Letting Go

The KonMari™ practice of thanking each item when you let it go can cultivate such a sense of peace. I find it so helpful to reflect on how the item entered my life and what it's brought to me. Each item came into my life and home for a reason. After I've spent some time reflecting on it, it's so much easier for me to let it go. I love this practice of expressing gratitude. 

I've wondered how Marie Kondo came up with this idea. To that end, I want to share with you an article on NPR about a send off for old robot dogs. (I recall my nieces had a robot dog at one point.) I found the idea of this Buddhist send off and the way the company has cared for these robot dogs so moving. The company has taken time to repair the dogs it could, but recognizes that it's time to let this project go. By having this send off at Buddhist temple, there is space to honor the time that was put into creating these items. They are truly letting them go with gratitude.